As a pastor, I am accustomed to seeing how fear governs so many lives.
And as I continue advocating for LGBT equality, I note how much the arguments offered by our opponents are also based in fear.
One example is the controversy in New Hampshire, where the Governor is conditioning his signing the Marriage Equality bill on whether the legislature will grant an exemption to religious agencies and programs so they won’t have to perform, permit, facilitate, recognize or accept a same-sex marriage (or any other marriage to which they object). This also would apply to religiously-affiliated schools and health-care facilities.
As a pastor, I certainly do not favor forcing any religious authority to perform a ceremony which denies fundamental beliefs. This is religious liberty and it is foundational to our nation.
Of course, I am entitled to my religious liberty as well, to perform marriages that are honored by my faith and religious tradition. That is equally foundational—a point the other side does not accept.
So, protect clergy, yes. But I wonder at the justification for allowing institutions not to “recognize or accept” legal marriages.
This New Hampshire provision, and ones like it in other states, seems to be grounded in an elemental fear of contamination with “the unholy.” The law allows people to avoid bodily contact with “the other.” They do not have to face the reality that same-gender marriages exist. Are we allowing fear to govern the public sphere?
That reminds me that Emmet Fox–the pastor/preacher who in the 1930s had a profound impact on New York City, and especially the founders of AA–says: “Really there are only two feelings a human being can have, namely love and fear.”
Fox is making a spiritual observation, not a clinical one. From a spiritual perspective, we are either engaging in love or in fear.
Fox also says, “Love is always creative, and fear is always destructive.” The “always” in that statement may feel forced.
And yet, it does seem true that when we love, we engage in making something more and better than it was. And when we fear, we participate in making something smaller and less God-like.
Let us love, my dear ones, and grow the world in God’s image. And let us heal fear with love.
Rev. Robin